don’t take it personally

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One week later and I’m still in shock. Last Monday, my MLK tribute was published to WordPress’s Freshly Pressed and has received over 1,000 views since then. I was completely blown away by the response of other bloggers, especially since I had just started this blog less than a month ago. I received views from people in countries that I honestly did not even know existed (shout-out to Latvia!). All of the honest comments, countless re-blogs, and the massive amounts of followers gained from other bloggers (aka, YOU!) was such an incredible encouragement to me. And after a week of reflection from such an excitement, I don’t even know where to begin with this new post…

…So I’ll start with thanks. I want to take a minute to thank all of you who not only read my MLK tribute, but who took the effort to write an honest comment about your dreams. I found myself identifying with many of you over your dreams, passions, and desires to see a better world. Words really can’t describe how I encouraged I am to know that I’m not alone in this fight for justice.

“When we give cheerfully and accept gratefully, everyone is blessed.” – Maya Angelou

Second, I want to share with you something I learned recently, and it has to do with that feeling of “being alone in our fight.” I’m going to share an experience that I encountered recently on Facebook in order to illustrate a point. One night I logged onto Facebook to update my status, where I included a link to an incredibly resourceful website that sheds light onto the issue of unequal rights among women. When I checked my Facebook the next day, I saw that I had received zero likes on my post. But as I continued to scroll through my news feed, I came across a status about an ironic/funny moment that had happened during someone’s day. The status had received over 50 likes. And to be completely honest, it really sucked when I saw that. I truly felt like no one cared about my post and I felt completely unheard. But then I realized something really important: I can’t take that kind of stuff personally. Yes, it stinks when you realize how unpopular you really are (haha, jk), but that’s actually not what is happening at all. When people post about ironic or funny moments that happen during their day, I’m reminded of what people like. People like to laugh, to feel, to understand, to see, to be engaged, to be identified with, etc. So when you try to talk about hard stuff and people don’t seem to care or understand, don’t take it personally. People are tired of seeing such unfortunate news and honestly, not everyone has the same passion as you to stop injustice in this world. (Shocking to come to terms with if you’re like me and most of your dreams are based around your goal for justice.)

But here’s the bigger picture that I hope to convey: when I start to take that kind of stuff personally, I’m forgetting my mission. The whole reason why I updated my status in the first place was for the purpose of spreading awareness about unequal rights among women. Not to become validated by my Facebook friends by receiving their virtual “likes.” (Now, I’m not saying that posting a status about the cause for humanity is bad, I’m just saying, don’t make it about yourself.) Because when I make it about me, I’m really not helping anybody. When I make my fight about myself and about my efforts and my accomplishments, then it’s no longer a fight for others. Again I am reminded of Martin Luther King, Jr. and his fight for his people. Looking back on his life, I see that he didn’t have the time to take things personally because he was already focused on his fight for others. And that’s what I hope we can all do together: focus our fight for others.

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And here’s my final point: don’t give up. After seeing the response from those who read my MLK tribute, I was reminded that I’m not the only one fighting this fight. I was reminded that people all over the world deeply care about serious issues that cause divisions between people. I was reminded to keep on fighting. So I want to remind you to do the same. Don’t let the media or angry, condescending people make you believe that you can’t achieve a better world. Don’t let your insecurities or personal negativity stop you from pursing your truest passions. And don’t make your fight for others revolve around yourself. While fighting for the cause for humanity may be discouraging at times, it will always be worth your efforts.

“Whoever sows to please their flesh, from the flesh will reap destruction; whoever sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life. Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” – Galatians 6:8-9 [NIV]


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16 thoughts on “don’t take it personally

    • Yes and I need to remind myself of that often. Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts. I’m incredibly inspired by your story and dreams.

  1. Amen to that sister! I praise God for this work in you, He lifts you up for all the world to see because He is so proud of your willing heart — May the extent of your heart be granted its full vision for justice in the earth! Amen, thank you for your posts! : )

    • Wow thank you so much for this super encouraging comment. I’m so grateful to know that there are people out there who can see my heart through this blog. Thank you!

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  3. Right on! Agreed and I enjoy your writing. Keep going! Facebook is definitely not a gauge for anything. I rarely get any likes on what I post. A lot has to do with timing of the posts too. That aside, it is disappointing. I like the blogging community much better!

    • Yes I have already found that I like the blogging community SO much better! Thanks for commenting and reminding me that I’m not the only who who feels disappointed by silly stuff like that ;)

  4. Another brilliant post.
    I think you are right in highlighting the fact that people do like to laugh, and read about positive things. All we ever hear on the news is negativity, however, it doesn’t mean that we should forget about the things that do not make us laugh.

    Cannot wait for your next post :-)

    • Thank you!! I am so encouraged by this comment! Glad you are able to identify with me and what I’ve learned. I’m excited to keep writing about these things and I appreciate your commenting!

  5. It’s hard to get likes on Facebook now any way. Thank you for so many good reminders. Yes, it’s not about getting attention or praise it’s about bigger causes.

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